So, this week we celebrated international women’s day and it made me think of all the women in my life. For a lot of us girls, when new guys come into our lives or just any guy that we like we spend a lot of time and effort on them. So many times a guy f**k’s us over and we think it’s the end of the world but somehow we carry on living and a huge part of that is in fact because of the women in our lives. Their strength and encouragement, the way they lift us up when we are down. A lot of these actions go un-thanked, it’s just part being a friend or a sister or a mother. I don’t know, but when a guy does something for me I think “oh my god”, he so sweet and like I will think a guy is the best person in the world for being there for me or supporting me this one time. When my mum, sister, aunties, friends or cousins are there for me all the time and every time. What I’m trying to say is that the women in my life do so much for me and women, in general, do a lot that goes unnoticed and un-thanked.
For international women’s day, I had a look at some statistics. The UK pride themselves on the fact that they have now had 2 women prime ministers and compared to other western countries such as the USA it is somewhat of an achievement. However, when I really looked at it, the UK has had 75 prime ministers and the population in this country is pretty much split half and half between women and men, I don’t know how only having 2 women out of 75 prime ministers is an achievement. I know that women only got the vote 100 years ago but it’s still not good enough, it is not good enough that there was even a time when women didn’t have the vote and men did. Anyway that being said there are still debates about whether women are strong leaders or even capable leaders. Some question whether a woman would be able to press the nuclear button. My answer to that is, what kind of evil heartless person would you have to be, to press a button that would wipe out a whole country, babies, children, the disabled! Feminine characteristics are seen as nurturing, sensitive and emotional. People associate these characteristics as being weak compared to the ideas we have of masculinity, just the word masculinity makes us think of strength. To me there are different types of strength, yes there is physical strength but in the world we live in, being able to show empathy and emotion is an example of true strength. I am not saying that all women are bound by these characteristics but people associate women with them and they should not be seen as negative or weak. If we had more women leaders that showed these characteristics maybe we wouldn’t live in such an evil world. No, I am not saying all men are evil lol I’m just saying the world would be more balanced and measured. We need to feel emotion when making such crucial decisions, how can it be seen as a weakness to be emotional when making decisions that can end in life or death.
Anyway, we can talk about world leaders and inspirational people and strength but this week we are also celebrating Mother’s Day. I’m sure, man or woman most of you will agree that your mums are inspirational and probably the strongest person we know. How do women give birth to us, literally bring us into this world and raise us but yet we question whether they can hold powerful positions in society? I have thought about my own mum a lot recently. I don’t want this to be all soppy because that is definitely not the type of relationship I have with mum at all. When I was younger me and my mum would be at each other’s throat all the time as mothers and daughters do. As I have got older, well really only recently I have looked back and sometimes I just can’t comprehend the strength of mothers. My mum was married for 13 years before she got divorced. As girls, we go through our fair share of heartbreaks. I’m sure many of us have had those days or weeks lol when we think we are never going to get over it and never find anyone else and it hurts. You know like sometimes we think our world is falling apart and we don’t want to get out of bed or do anything. Looking back, I never saw my mum crumble. I never saw her just sitting in bed watching sad films, crying her eyes out. She got up and went to work every day, she cooked dinner and her life didn’t stop. She couldn’t stop her daily routines because she had two daughters to look after and I genuinely don’t know how she did it. Being a mother is the definition of a thankless job. I have friends that are single mothers and sometimes when I think about things they do it makes me realise how things were for my mum. In most cases when parents separate, the children predominantly stay with their mums. Day in day out, mums look after their kids, feed them, cloth them do all the day to day jobs, that are not glamorous or fun. When you’re younger you don’t appreciate things like that you take them for granted. Our dad would come and take us on holiday for a week to Dubai and we would think he was the dad of the year. I’m not saying he was a bad dad I’m just saying at the time we would obviously be excited and thankful for that and not our mum making us dinner every day. Her ability to go on and the ability that most mums have to just carry on and keep going for their kids is something I will probably never understand until I have my own kids. When I get upset I feel like I can’t concentrate and can’t write my essays but for my mum and loads of mums that’s not an option, there’s not an option to just have a day off from being a mum.
So yes, this week was international women’s day and today we celebrate the most important women in our lives, our mums. I guess the sentiment of this post is to show some appreciation to all the amazing women in my life, especially my mum and to show that a woman’s strength is so much more than being able to carry heavy boxes.